I have had my fair share of making new year's resolutions and watching myself continuously fail within weeks of it. I didn’t yet know that I was not the issue within this cycle, but rather it was the system and the approach that I took that was in fact the problem.
Making goals for future achievements and improvements is something every individual does. There is a phenomenon that is not tangible yet holds an important value within our lives: a wish to become better at something. But that only occurs when that wish turns into a want, when your willpower takes the lead and you can accomplish anything. But willpower is a skill, not a talent, which you have to nourish and develop. It is a challenge on its own, which you must be ready to face. With that willpower, I believe that if you work hard enough, you can absolutely accomplish anything in this world.
I am acquainted with various individuals who set unrealistic goals which they continuously are not able to accomplish every year. In fact, it is proven that 80% of New Year's resolutions fail within weeks. Trying new things comes with failure, that is unchangeable, but your attitude towards that failure can control both how motivated you are and how willing you are to persevere. See failure as an opportunity, not an enemy, and let failure help you, not break you. Your success will fluctuate, but your willpower is what will keep you going. Therefore willpower is the key.
It is still only the beginning of the new year, hence it’s not only the time to make new resolutions, but also the time to implement new systems and pragmatically construct a plan of how you are going to do so. Remember it's not the goal that is the most important but how you get to that goal, the journey itself. Think of what this goal means to you, think of why it is important and crucial in order for you to become a successful unique individual, decide right now if you are ready and will give your full effort to do this. If you are not ready to fully commit to a goal, there is simply no reason to aim for it, and reading such articles will simply give you nothing but a dream followed by disappointment, which unfortunately is not reality but pure distress.
Various neuroscientists and coaches encourage people to make a written plan which sets specific steps that you need to take in order to achieve your goals. Take small steps. Acknowledge that this will take time. Be realistic and most importantly true to yourself about what you are capable of achieving, what methods are best for YOU specifically, be kind to yourself, but never forget to push yourself, otherwise you will be standing still the whole way through.
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